I’m 25F started having sex (protected) with this guy (27M) I’m seeing. Things got pretty heated up and we didn’t really ask each other if we had got tested for STIs before we got intimate.Then we had sex on multiple occasions. I couldn’t see him for a few months after that due to work situations, but I still don’t know if he’s getting tested on the regular. I wanna ask him soon because it’s been on my mind. Would it be better to get tested first and then ask him? Or would it be better to ask first? I live in Japan and voluntary STIs testing without symptoms is expensive. I went to the doctor complaining of fake symptoms so I could get the tests on insurance, but they didn’t do a full panel because there were no signs.

I’m not sure about the timing to ask him because I wanna avoid doing the STIs tests twice if I can.

Any thoughts/ suggestions are welcome. Thanks!