TLDR: I was having sex with a guy for the first time and he asked me If I was a virgin while I was on top. I am not. I have never been told I am bad at sex and now I am re thinking every sexual experience I have ever had. Humbling and embarrassing. I'm 23 and female. Help.

I'm F23, last night I was having hook up sex. We basically matched on an app in the morning, texted all day, and then he came over after work at like 1am.

We make out, he fingers me, he eats me out (which was honestly not good in my opinion.. didn't leave me wanting it to last for ages). I thought the kissing was good though.

Anyways we start fucking and he puts it in classic missionary style and then were fucking, making out, he's directing me into other positions such as doggy, and then he tells me to get on top.

Okay I have to say being on top is my least favourite, because I don't feel like I'm that good at it or really know how to make it flow without it feeling choppy?? If that makes sense. But I wouldn't say that I'm completely inexperienced or "bad" at it. I've been having sex for about 5 years and have had sex with around 30 people - none of which have ever made a comment about how I seem inexperienced or how I could use a few tips... maybe my first boyfriend 4 years ago but that's a fair situation.

So I get on top, and I'm trying to put it in by just sitting on it (not using my hand).. my knees are on the bed (I'm not on my feet) and my hands are on the bed beside his body. We've been going pretty slow this whole time and I'm most turned on by slow sex and it seems like he is too- until this point. So I finally get it in and I'm like going up and down but also kissing him so I'm not straight up I'm more leaning into him and parallel to his body, not perpendicular. Anyways we're doing that and it comes out and then he says, "You're not a virgin, are you?" .......... and not in a sexy way. This was like a genuine question from him. I stopped dead in my tracks and said, "What, am I fucking like a virgin???" and got off of him and laid beside him... and he was like "I'm just asking" and I'm like so upset and offended I almost shed a tear. I was like "No obviously not... I cant believe you just said that." and we sat in silence for like 1-2 mins and I eventually we got back to it, I was hesitant to go on top again especially after that incident but I think I did but only for a short amount of time before I decided to get off and give him the opportunity to switch to another position... Eventually he finished and we laid there for a little bit and I brought it up again saying "I can't believe you asked me if I was a virgin" and he was like "Well I was just asking" or something along those lines... I was like clearly offended but he didn't reassure me much... It was only a hook up so? Whatever?

Basically looking for advice on how to be better in bed because since this I have been SPIRALLING and have thought about so many past sexual encounters and feel so embarrassed if I really am bad at sex. I told some of my friends about this and many of them said "Dude theres no way you're bad at sex. I refuse to believe it. It must've been him or maybe he was projecting." I don't think he was projecting. He's 2 years older than me and was not giving virgin vibes but was also not giving the smoothest sex I've ever had. For reference I've had sex with about 30 different people, but only 8-10 of them are like repeat sex (sex more than once or a couple times).

Help!!