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Sounds crazy a bit… but I’m trying to figure out if I have a praise kink or just crappy partners 🫣.
I’d like to hear that I’m beautiful or sexy, pretty… just basically that I’m desired. Like a sign that you (my partner) want to be here with me specifically.
Is this a praise kink or are people naturally enthusiastic and nice to their partners during sex?
Ive done a bit of research and see that everything is subjective and “some do, some don’t” and it’s very individualized. I get that and understand no one can definitively say what’s a kink or not. But I’d still like a sense of how other people are experiencing sex. I don’t have a ton of personal experience to go of off, so I’d really appreciate you alls input.
I suspect, perhaps my partners just don’t actually find me attractive, but I don’t know. Yes, I’ve asked them and they say yes. However, I can’t shake the feeling that people are nice and say nice things during sex (obviously this is outside of those wanting degradation or anything planned to be opposite). Like do people actually tell their partners “you’re hot” or “you’re pretty” during sex or that like a pre negotiated thing?
Apologies if this is a “some do, some don’t question”… I just trying to ask some people as I don’t have anyone to ask irl.
No I did not… I’m simply posing a question on this sub to gather different opinions and input.
I’m trying to figure out is that is something people experience without prompting?
I’m basically trying to figure out if it is a kink or if people are nice to their partners generally… I know everyone is different, just trying to gather some different opinions and varying experiences since I haven’t had a lot of partners.
Thank you 🙏
I guess another way to say it… is …
Is that vanilla or a kink activity?
I just haven’t had a lot of partners, so I’m asking the community. Like do I need to search out explicitly kink partners or is it the quality of the partner.
🙏 thank you
Thanks… I hate begging people to be nice to me. And then like providing a script. I suspected being nice was somewhat implicit if you’re interested.
I appreciate your input.
Thank you for your input… glad you could understand what I am asking.
Appreciate it.
It’s not so much the definition. Im trying to determine if it’s a normal/non-kink activity and thus I need better partners.
Of if I need to focus on finding more kink specific partners. Just trying to gauge a bit from other experiences. Personally its feel like begging to ask someone to be nice to you and act like they like you… but I don’t know everything and only have my experience to go from.
Perhaps I need to adjust my mindset and it really is a case of this being a kink, and I need to pursue more kink-minded partners. In my opinion, I would think people are just nice to their partners as a default (not that everyone is the same, but like “normative”/non kink), but thats not my experience, so I wanted to ask a few people.
Apologies if I wrote that wrong, still figuring out how to best word questions for this sub.
Thank you
Thank you for the input I appreciate it.
I’m not sure. I’d assume people are generally nice and affirming (outside of explicit dynamics of degradation for example), but I’m only one person. So I don’t know if it’s normal/ “vanilla” activity.
I understand that I have to ask for what I want. However I don’t want to beg someone to be nice to me if that’s just a normal thing. But perhaps I’m wrong and being nice or calling your partner pretty is a kink activity.
Yes those exact things that I mentioned… yes those.
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So you always understood what I was asking… but wanted a lead up to offer me sex.
😩 …got it