30 Male, is the grass greener ?

So going to be a long one so buckle up. Me and her me [M] have been together for about 8 years now. We connect great on a lot of things, a few things could be better but basic relationship stuff. So thing we're good the first 2 years id say, we were fun and flirty and messed around even with the roommates around. But then it just kinda stopped. To be fair my big reason for stopping was because she's a pillow princess. We are both over weight and she has horrible back issues due to an accident early in life.

So basically the bed room was boring but she was my first relationship, not my first sexual encounter or anything but first real partner. So it's been tough and boring, not only that but I could use a lil extra help getting "there" but she never helps me. Every single time we have had sex I get myself there and then finish. And that just kinda sucks. Iv checked and she's happy, she's giggling and having a good time basking in the afternoon glow but I do all the work and my own reward ? So I stopped bringing it up but the thing is she never, never made a move for us to go to the bed room after I stopped.

So flash forward 6 years, roommates come and go, moving, big life changes and tough times made it easy to just put that issue on the back burner and just think " we just don't have time". Don't get me wrong, got the last like 4 years every few months I brought up her going back on birth control and being intimate which usually ended in wierd fights. I have talked to her, my friends and some therapists, and I just feel like I'm not sexually satisfied. I ha r made changes in my life as the last few months, I have gotten in shape, dropped 50 pounds and am at the gym, I do more around the home and try with her. We finally had a break through and had sex one evening a few weeks ago and I knew it was going to be rough. It's been years but I was happy it was happening. But during it I just remembered all the reasons I was unhappy with it before. She tried talking to me after and I didn't know what to say which want great and we argued about that later but got better.

Since then we haven't really talked about it or tried again, she says she doesn't like to do it when our roommates here so timing sucks and that pretty much only leaves weekends open if we are lucky. I'm at a point where I'm wondering if I'm way over reacting with being so unhappy with my partner I'm the bedroom, iv been transparent with her 100%, and she says she's willing to try what if like to, I have kinks I eould like to try, but the energy I get from her is more of someone there for a rife along then a actual interested individual. You know what I mean? Like I want a woman that hungers for me as much as I do her but I don't get that from her.

I just feel lost in my life and feel like I'm looking at a grass is greener kinda situation, dosnt help that one of her friends I'm attracted to as well as we seem very simila. Please if love some feed back but no dead bedroom screaming nonsense or telling me to bail now. I love her and want things to work I just feel confused and need to sort things out.

TL;DR! Should I move on at this point t because sex and intimacy sucks with my partner or stay and continue after so long ?