I'm male, 43, married, 2 young kids.

The household has a busy schedule of 2 high stress careers, renovations, kids sport, etc etc

Due to all this, we (the wife and I) struggle to find time for intimacy, including sex - when we do it's great.

We've talked about all of this numerous times, and the end result is, the wife is tired, emotionally and physically exhausted, touched out, stressed, etc, and sex/intimacy is not a priority for her given.... Everything.

Putting my feelings and priorities aside, and just focussing on supporting her when she's frazzled etc at this particular juncture of our lives - and not needing or wanting any advice on communication, sharing the emotional loaf, doing my fair share and more - What I AM after is some advice on taking care of my own needs during this time so I'm not so

a) bored b) frustrated c) horny, and probably d) resentful

I'm so over porn, maybe the answer is to just jerk off, but I'm hoping for tips and tricks from others who are or have been in the same situation on how to cope for myself

Cheers