So this might be a controversial idea, idk, I can see it going either way, so that’s why I’m here asking advice from a bunch of random internet strangers 🤣

So I’m contemplating making a “Star Chart” kind of thing for my husband. That’s not to say that sex would only be earned, but that it could be? If that makes sense.

Essentially I want my husband to actively look forwards to doing his chores so that he’ll actually do them and stop unintentionally forcing me to take on the full mental load. Plus nothing is sexier than a dad doing his chores and helping out around the house and playing with the kids.

The problem is that there isn’t some part of his brain already that tells him to do these things, so he sort of self sabotage’s my desire to be intimate with him because I’m too tired from doing everything.

It’s important to note that he is ND and so am I so of course this isn’t a conventional method. Which makes me feel like there is a higher chance of success honestly.

I want to have sex with him (mentally), but nothing makes me dryer than watching him loaf after I’ve had a full day of house & baby mornings and evening of our other two kiddos. I KNOW he works 8-10 hour days, but so do I. I just don’t get paid. (I didn’t pick this for myself. I’m disabled.)

Anywho! Star chart! Opinions?