I'm the partner of the owner of this Reddit account. I don't really use social media, and he proposed that I write this out so the wonderful people here can do it too. He likes when I do this to him, and I've been doing this to him for a while, close to 2 years now.

It's worth noting that I have a sample size of 1 to go off of when it comes to penises. I've only ever seen him. And varied anatomy might play a part in the position I'll describe. He's circumcised, and is 7'' in length. (You'll see why I mention how long he is when we get to the position you'll want to put him in.) An uncircumcised glans may be too sensitive to have enjoyment from the techniques I'll describe. Communicate with your partner, and listen to what is too much, and what feels best.

Note: this obviously works for masturbation too.

You will need

• A willing penis owner.
• A thick lube, like coconut butter or vasliline
• A towel.

Now onto "the guide."

Give him the usual foreplay. Get him hard, spend some time with him, cuddle, talk, share giggles, all of that. It's important that he's relaxed. Do not touch his penis, do not suck him, do not stroke him.

When he's ready, lay him down on his side, preferably on a bed, the towel under him, resting his head on a pillow in the fetal position, and pull his penis between his legs. It's best if he does it himself.

After he's laid down comfortably, his cock between his legs, you need to get comfortable too. Position yourself in whatever way you need to to have full access to his cock with your hands, and for a long period of time. I like sitting criss cross directly behind him, my crotch kind of in line with the head of his penis, this lets me hunch over a little, and brace my elbows on crook created by my knees.

Take your lube, enough to coat his entire cock, and keep it to your fingertips. You'll have way too much on your hands, but that's what you want. You're not going to spread it all over his penis just yet. The idea here is to keep the touching deliberate, focused, and surprising. I like vasiline best, because coconut butter, depending on the batch, gets kind of melty and unmanageable.

Start by very gently caressing, just a few fingertips at a time. I've found that my guy likes me starting with just the very tip, right at the slit of his urethra, and doing my teasing there to start off. Start gentile, move to firm, and try to keep him guessing with what comes next.

Ask him to describe every sensation to you, you're looking for him to describe things as burny or electric/twitchy, and tell him to relay to you when he feels both of those things. My guy has never been able to orgasm from continued burny speed or technique, but sometimes a slow technique that produces "burny" can produce "electric" when sped up, and that he can cum from.

It's imperative that he is completely relaxed. All movements should be ones he can't control. If he throbs his cock, in the same way he'd make it bounce, stop momentarily, and tell him to relax. His abs are the same way, tell him not to tighten them up, and just focus on his breathing.

Sit and play with him, and start ramping up. Firmly rub one or two of your fingers across the top of his glans, circle his corona with a single fingetip. Never once touch the rest of his shaft, except with your other hand to steady his cock. Do not stroke his glans this early. The most you should be doing is some very, very light palming. Don't even make a ring with your index finger and thumb and use that, it'd be wasted. What you want is a constant teasing that builds into a burning sensation that makes him want to throb his cock.

You might be asking why I don't want him to throb his penis, or tighten his abs, or do any of those other things. It's because that's what makes the sensations surge, and can drive him over the edge, or too close to it too quickly. It's the same idea as tensing the legs and pushing them together when they want to cum right then and there. You don't want that to happen, and he shouldn't either. The orgasm needs to happen organically.

Once he's at the constant burning feeling stage, you can start stroking his glans, or move to some heavier palming. My guy doesn't really like palming, as it's too much, but YMMV obviously. He usually likes when I put my four fingers on top of his glans, and my thumb on the underside, and stroke like that. (Think of the Italian "mama mia" hand thing) If your guy has a super sensitive frenulum, this might be far too much. You're looking for a pace that makes him shake, seriously. He should be a twitchy mess under your touch. I cannot stress enough, do NOT touch his shaft, or any other part of his penis besides his glans, your support hand should be motionless.

Your stimulation should be very intense at this point. Try and get him to the finish line as fast as you can with just his tip.

Other things that you can do to him include:

• twisting, with a firm grip, rubbing the knuckle pads of your palm (pointer and ring finger) against him. Also going in and out with this grip should feel great.
• Put it in your mouth. I'm serious. This will probably be a very nice surprise for him. If your bed is small, you can start off by kneeling or sitting with his butt kind of already off the edge, and have easy head-level access. Doing this requires planning ahead, but the payoff is great.
  • Fast, up and down (perpendicular) motions against the slit of his urethra.
  • rub small, hard pressing circles into the portion just above his urethra with the tip of your stiff tongue.
  • with your mouth open wide, rub the top of his glans against the roof of your mouth. You might rake the shit out of him with your teeth the first few times till you get the positioning just right. Don't let your tongue touch his shaft. The first time I did this to him he started shaking like crazy, I highly recommend this, even though it'll probably make your neck hurt.
• You know the "give me the money" sign, the one that makes cats come to you like you're a catnip dealer? Do that to his glans, either with your two fingers on top, or your thumb up top. Pinch kind of hard, not like CBT type stuff, but enough to squish him a little bit.

Have some fun, try new things.

He needs to tell you when he's close. This will happen when it happens, if his sensitivity with one thing starts to fade, switch to another. If he absolutely cannot reach climax from just glans stimulation, no matter what, introduce one long stroke, along the entirety of his shaft every once and a while. Do it every so often till he says he's about to cum. Sometimes my guy even needs this, and from what I've read, it's more common in circumcised men. I know for a fact that just under the circumcision scar on my guy's penis, there's a very sensitive portion of skin that he sometimes needs stimulation on to orgasm.

As soon as he says he's close, stop entirely, let go. Don't let him cum just yet. You're not denying him anything, you're just making it better, believe me.

Once what feels like a small eternity to him has passed, go back to square 1. Tease the hell out of him, just your fingertips, absolutely nothing intense. Let another small eternity pass, then go crazy on him. Pick one thing and do just that, and do it quickly. If he doesn't tell you he's close within a minute, do the long stroke thing, introduce them every 5 seconds, then every 4, and so on. You can obviously rinse and repeat these steps to edge him, but I like doing it just once.

When he tells you he's close, just keep going, doing the same thing you're doing. You need to reassure him, tell him not to hold anything back and relax. He's going to shake, curl his toes, and make some very hot noises. He's going to convulse when he cums, and if he's never had this done to him before, he's going to buck and probably tap out/safeword, which is okay. You shouldn't taper off a bit while he's cumming, let him tell you when to stop, or when to slow down.

All of the above applies when you're using your mouth.

Oh, and once you've decided it's time for him to cum if you're edging him, tell him not to warn you, and just let it happen. I've often times found myself unconsciously changing what I'm doing to him when it's cumming time.

He's for sure going to need a few minutes afterwards, especially the first time. Cuddle him, and maybe lightly play with his cock while he catches his breath and his heart rate goes down.

I can answer questions, but it'll probably easier for him to answer them, simply because he has a penis, and I don't.