I (29F) and my boyfriend (31M) have been together for almost 3 years, and in all this time, sex has stayed so vanilla it hurts.

For context, he refuses to perform oral sex, and if he does, it’s absolutely zero effort, and can’t give any pointers are he immediately gets annoyed. If I preform oral on him, he is not willing to cum in my mouth, which is literally my goal. Missionary is his choice, and always minimal foreplay.

In my previous marriage, we were more experimental and it taught me things I particularly like, but my current bf has zero desire to explore anything new, even though he knows I need more to satisfy.

How do I get someone to talk about sex, when they refuse to even say the word? To show him that there is more to sex than just what he knows. Cannot be healthy to be this horny all the time.