I (F,22) and a guy I met that goes to another college (M, 22) had the most intimate sex last night. We both made it clear before hand that it was a hookup as I live in another town and was visiting a friend for the weekend. We had met early on during the day and ended up chatting non stop for several hours. We went to a party and ended up hooking up. This sex lasted several hours (it ended up being like three hours long) of stopping and starting again.

I had the most intense orgasms of my life and had several back to back, and several that lasted long periods of time. He was pretty much entirely focused on me. I focused on him for a while with some very dedicated head. I ended up being unable to ride him because I just kept coming and it made my legs literally stop working. He was more than understanding and reassured me that he was more very fulfilled because I was taken care of. The aftercare was wonderful, full of intimate making out and cuddling. We had some very vulnerable conversations, asked a lot of deep questions about each other, did a bit of trauma dumping. I have never had such amazing sex or amazing aftercare. I’ve had great sex and great aftercare, but nothing to this extent. It felt incredibly intimate and the chemistry with this person was amazing. I’ve never been able to just pick a person from a crowd, tell myself I want to get to know them, have amazing conversation, and seal the deal. All of my relationships have just kinda fallen into place. I’ve had intimate sex, done hookups, done fwb. They were all great partners and prioritized my pleasure. But nothing felt like this one though.

A small part of me is sad because I know that we would never work. He lives four hours away and both of us discussed the fact that we are emotionally not ready for a relationship and are getting over our exes. I’ve hooked up with other people since that ex and he has too. His hookup count is low (like mine) but this doesn’t seem like a normal occurrence for him.

I’ve never had that level of chemistry. Never had that level of intimacy. I feel like a standard was truly set for me with how sex should be, what true spark attraction and chemistry should feel like I am returning to his town in a few weeks for another event, and have considered reaching out again so we can share another evening. Can anyone talk to me about their experiences with intimate hookups like that? Is it possible he felt something too? I don’t understand men and I’m not sure if this is common. I just need to talk to people about the situation.