I (28f) found out that my ovaries are wrapped up in cysts about three weeks ago. My gyno recommended no sex for six weeks at that appointment. I told my husband (30M) and he’s been very supportive of me through this. Hasn’t asked for it, hasn’t pushed me or tried to guilt me into any sexual activity. He still makes the cheesy pervy comments when I say anything he can turn into innuendo (which seems to be absolutely anything).

We both have high sex drives, and enjoy a healthy sex life with us going atleast 3 rounds a day on a normal day. Here we are three weeks in and even though he’s not saying anything about not being able to have sex, I can feel him getting angsty and irritable. I ask what’s wrong and get “just tired” as a response each time. Something in my gut tells me it has to do with the no sex but he won’t come out and say it. I feel like crap because I’ve convinced myself that he’s pissed off at me because I can’t have sex, am generally too nauseous to give him head and the inflammation the cysts are causing makes anal sex way too painful to enjoy.

Like I’ve said, he hasn’t mentioned this being the problem and really apart from the angst and irritation he’s not really changed in how he acts. He still cuddles with me and watches TV/movies, he’s picked up some extra housework and parental duties so I can relax and not be over working myself. He’s honestly been great and a true help, but I still feel guilty that I can’t alleviate any of his own stresses with any kind of sexual act. I tried to give him handjobs but the motion and movement make me super nauseated. I’ve expressed my feeling of guilt to him about the situation and was met with a “we’re not doing anything to make that any worse than it already is, just a couple more weeks and hopefully we will have answers for moving forward with the cysts.”

I don’t know how to stop feeling so guilty about this when he himself hasn’t been doing anything to make me feel guilty. I think it has to do with all of my ex’s would guilt trip me into sex and up until this point my husband and I havent really experienced anything like this except for post child birth and even though he didn’t push me for sex then I was still very capable sucking him off a couple times a day after the first week. So why now am I feeling so guilty about this and how do I get it to stop?