I've been reading about the possibility of my wife being asexual. The more I learn about asexual people the more convinced I am that she is. My wife makes sex feel like a chore. I don't even think she enjoys sex. She claims to have never masturbated like ever.

Before kids, she would initiate and even want it during risky times which was fun. Waking up to a BJ or getting frisky on a friend's couch during the middle of the day. Today she can't be bothered but I think the issue runs deeper. The combination of her putting on some weight and perimenopause are likely contributing to her negative moods which are happening more often.

Some people complain about only having duty sex once a week. Once a week sounds like a dream to me. The next time if I ever have sex again I might be nervous because it's been too long without intimacy. Therapy is off the table because she is too stubborn and doesn't like to share her privacy even with me. I hate even writing this because we have built a life together (kids, home, vacations, etc) 15 years together but I'm not exactly living the dream. Still I enjoy my life overall with her except for this one kinda important thing called sex.

Not even sure if this is a rant or if anybody has something honest to say. I'm generally a glass half full person but there are days where it's just difficult.