So my wife and I love each other very much and are compatible in almost every way you can think of except in the bedroom. While she and I both try to do things the other is interested in, I feel like she and I are just two different types of people in bed. She looooves being "wined and dined," long romantic, candlelit, novel-like making love sessions, and I get that, I enjoy it too...every now and then, but respectfully, I also love being able to just...fuck...every once in a while. Sometimes I don't like going through the effort and energy of "let's warm up your engines" and go through all the effort of making her feel sexualized and desired, not to say that I don't love her, because I do, but I miss when we were almost able to just have a FWB type relationship and it was just let's smash real quick, high five, roll over and go to sleep. I'm not saying she doesn't deserve to be made to feel cared for and loved, because I know that's what some of you will try to pull out and take away from this, SHE DOES and I love her, but sometimes I just want to have a spontaneous quickie and call it a night/afternoon, whatever, without it having to be something you find in a romance novel. I know women are emotional creatures and you have to "be made" to be put in the mood sometimes...but sometimes it's also good just to get it in and out real quick and keep it moving. How can I communicate this to my wife? I've tried talking to her before about it and she'll say she's listening and will try to work on it, but 2-3 weeks later, I'm back in the same pattern of extra energy, extra time, extra work before she's even remotely turned on. How can I handle things differently?