My partner and I have been together 10 years. I(f) know about 2 of his kinks, and just found out about another. 1 we do and I enjoy-anal 2 never done with him- deepthroat ( I did a few times when I was much much younger) 3 menaje a trouser, never done with him, did twice when young and just fwb deal So my issue is with 2 &3 I'm terrified! For 3 I just recently found out this is what he watches on porn.im terrified he will just jam away and WANT it to hurt and get off by that. So how do I give him this deepthroat "gift" but not feel like I am going to be hurt and destroyed like the extremely bad porn stuff For 3, I am 100% monogamous and will die inside seeing him pleasure another woman when he rarely does me, as well as watching another woman do that to him , (and constantly think how now he will only ever want other woman in our bed) but I know his eyes wife and several girlfriends did this for him,so I need to do this How can I get those thoughts out of my head to give him this gift I really need some suggestions, advice and pointers on these two acts but also possible links on how to do them properly . Do you have any input on those points?