Hi yall. I(27f) have been with my boyfriend (30m) for barely 2 months (but friends for 2 years), and we practically live together (i sleep over 5 nights a week and we work together) He has a high libido. I mean wants sex 5 times a day at least, and if I rejected one of those, once or twice a week, he goes into full rage mode.

"Why are you punishing me and using it as a weapon just because you're mad at me?"

He knows about my sexual trauma from my past (I was molested and beat by family members and bfs from 9yr-24yr)

I told him sometimes my ptsd gets triggered or I'm just not in the mood. I said women aren't always in the mood 24/7. Some, maybe, but not all. And it's a very emotional thing for a lot of us. And that I can't force myself to be in the mood. He doesn't understand any explanation I give him and starts going on about how close minded I am and I just want to fight and I'm rejecting him because I want to punish him.

I'm sorry if this is the wrong sub BTW lemme know...

Am I wrong? Is something just wrong with my sex drive or is he disrespecting boundaries??

Edit: Sorry yall. I fell asleep and did not expect this to blow up. I received a few dms and see some comments asking some questions I'll answer here:

We have a sort of sub/dom relationship as we discussed years ago it was something we enjoyed. However I'm aware even in those, i should be able to say no.

when I was on my period I told him I wouldn't have sex until it was over because of how aggressive he gets it would make a mess. He said ok. After 1 day of no sex he said it's been a whole week and got very angry the entire next day. Skipping days is almost impossible.

The sex is about 20-45 minutes long most of the time. It's not a short quickie thing which is what makes it hard because he likes to he so rough he is basically trying to break through the walls. Blowjobs are about a 15 minute thing so I try to offer those often instead so we aren't late to work.

When we were friends he was perfect and I really thought he was THE perfect man. I had never seen him mad. But the first time he ever got mad he turned until jeykl and Hyde and said the most cruel things any bf has ever said to me. But then 3 days later said he showed the texts to his family and friends and every one of them told him to apologize because he was out of line for screaming at just because a male coworker called me and i didn't answer. He now has that tantrum 2 to 3 times a week and when I ask what I did wrong he says I'm starting a fight and he's not doing thar shit.

Outside of this problem and a few minor disagreements we are soooo happy so it's really hard because I know I should leave but I really like him 90% of the time.

Oh and after a recent argument 4 or so days ago I told him "I'm sorry I cant force myself to be in the mood but I'll stop turning you down even if i don't want to do it". Well then he forced me to cuddle and screamed at me for not being overly joyed about it because I wanted space instead. The next night we had sex probably 4 times back to back in a 3 hour span and by the 3rd I was practically numb. No noise, no movement. He bent me over, did his thing and then I cleaned myself and went to sleep and then we were talking and giggling and he said "I know you want me to take those shorts off again huh?" And I said we have to sleep we work tomorrow and he said FINE. the next day we were in another argument and he asked and I said yes I didn't want to and he said "oh great so you just made me a rapist because your want to be a petty smart-ass?" And now we're still off and on fighting.