Hi all, Im 36 male and have been with my wife for 18 years, thought out our entire relationship we have always had different sex drives (mine being alot higher than hers) but we have always been able to make it work.

Recently my wife has been going through alot of things with work and depression. She hates her job, she's on her feet all day and as a result is always sore or tired out and on top of that she's been dealing with depression all of which have brought her sex drive crashing down which is totally understandable. I'm doing my best to support her through everything but she's never been one to talk about feelings and I have to watch how far I push the conversation as if I push too far she will shut it down. On top of this she has always had issues with her self esteem on top of that she is from a family who believe in just "pushing though" so she won't entertain therapy of any sort.

So to the point, as I've gotten older instead of getting lower my sex drive has increased to the point where I now find masturbation does nothing for me. Porn does nothing for me using toys to help with masturbation does nothing and I'm constantly frustrated to the point it's starting to effect my every routine. I'm becoming more irritable and having dealt with depression in my past I know I'm heading down a dark hole.

I don't know what to do, my wife won't even entertain sex at the moment and I understand why, she is both physically and mentally drained and I feel incredibly selfish for feeling like this. Hell I feel like an asshole even posting this.

How can I get past the sexual frustration I'm feeling, it's really bothering me and I feel like I should be able to push past this, but it's starting to get the better of me.

Sorry for the long post