What is wrong with me? Lossing my libido

I am 35F he is 32M, married for 4 Years, living together for 6 years, being together for 7 years

Since I became sexually active (20 y ago) I always enjoyed sex, I am not shy, I know what I like, I used to considered my self as a woman with high sex drive.

When I was 23 I realized my libido was gone, I stop taking birth control pills and I inmediatly re gained it

With my now husband used to have the Best se ever in my life, he knew exactly what to do, how to do it, he was really amazing. The First year we have sex around 4/5 times per week.

But then... He came to live with me... And this is where I started to lossing my libido again I stop taking birth control, nothing happened, I took some natural pills that suppoused to give higher levels of testosteron, nothing happened, I scheduled in my mind that every friday and saturday I had to be available (showered, in the Mode) to have sex, nothing changed, I talk to a psycologist and a sexologist and nothing changed, I dont now WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?

When we didnt live together I was always expecting sex, I went to his place all showered, looking pretty, smelling good, having a nice underwear... But now I showered one a Day when I feel I need to, I m around the house in pijamas or comfortable clothes, without any make up.

For me being clean is really important, I pee like 7/8 times a Day I can't be washing my self 7/8 times a Day, so espontanius sex is not a really good option.

He has been very pacient, he hasnt lost a Cent of his libido in those years, he really wants me and I feel so bad for him. When He starts touching me, giving me neck or back massages, in a few minutes i can already feel his erection... Thats when I think... He is already ready for this and I m Just enjoying the massages I am not in the road of getting wet yet...

About masturbation, I have a bullet toy, when I lived by myself, I used to came from Work, have a nice clit orgasm by myself and take a nap nowadays sometimes I forget and can be a week without giving me pleasure

I really miss my old lusty self =(