I [40F] am in a committed, long term (24 years) relationship [M41].
Anal is not my forte and it is an area of our relationship that we have never explored. As long as we have been together, when we do it doggy, his hands venture the area. In the beginning, I would stop him if he so much as touched between my ass cheeks, but after a while I didn't mind that and I am okay with him rimming around the outside. I get nothing out of it, but I like the rush of him getting something out of it.
I am on the fence about taking it further. For females, is there a physical stimulus in there other than a head trip? I am one of those girls that goes full on sensory and becomes completely brainless; so my mind does not join in the fun. I know the legs of the clit reach back there, but is a little penetration enough to edge up stimulation?
I also think my SO wants to receive anal touches. I massage his perineum and he enjoys that a lot. When I am flat on my stomach and he straddles my legs and is drilling into me, he will guide my heel up to his ass and grind against it. I often broach the subject afterwards and compliment how much he seemed to like it, but he denies it. I will not go there without him asserting to me that he wants it.
Should I drop the subject and keep doing what we're doing, or is there a better way to get him to open up to me? (he is not much of a talker) It leads me to my first curiosity and maybe if I let him in he will let me in?