What are some tips to improve communication during sex?

I recently had sex for the first time. Actually had never done much of anything then suddenly found myself making out and rounding all the bases so to speak. Apart from the sex Ed I’ve received and given myself I had no idea what I was doing the whole time.

I found it surprisingly hard to communicate. I mean there’s the obvious distraction and physical activity that get in the way a bit, then it’s a bit more nerve wracking to speak up about certain things than I ever imagined. I didn’t think I’d find it awkward to talk about being about to cum while I was inside a person. I mean I thought I’d be more comfortable by that point.

I found I wasn’t even comfortable talking about birth control options I could barely bring it up. Also to be clear even if that means I wasn’t ready I am almost 30 so it’s still probably time to learn that skill.

Also now there’s the communication after. I reached out to her to touch base and make sure everything that went down was appreciated and not too bad. Then we were chatting back and forth more casually than we normally would so I’m sort of wondering where we stand and how much I should push the issue. There’s also the fact that I never told her I was a virgin. I imagined myself saying I was inexperienced but between how fast it went and being a bit shyer than I expected I felt it was too late. Seemed like an odd thing to hear directly after.