I (M25) have alway struggled to meet woman due to a lot of factors but I feel my physical appearance plays major part in it (I am 5'2" and not that attractive), my lack in confidence following that. I've been trying to work on the second part. I feel like the few instances where I've actually met someone where thing could have led to something more, would involve a woman who is on the heavier side. I'm pretty opened minded when it comes to body types. If you really made me choose, I'd say I lean a bit more towards chubby girls actually. Not necessarily as big as possible, but I've always loved thick thighs and a soft tummy.

The issue I have is that, I am average length, "below" average girth (some would argue it's average, I don't feel like it is). I feel I would have to rely more on my length since I know I won't be able to stretch anyone out or give them that "full feeling". While I love me a bigger girl, I feel like I would never be able to meet her sexual needs. I know a bigger woman doesn't mean a bigger vagina, but I feel like them thick thighs (and potentially big ass) would be too much of a cushion and I would either slip out on the slightest movement, or not be able to go in deep enough for her. I fear if the time came, she won't be able to feel me or be able to enjoy it and would be dissatisfied and/or would fake her enjoying it for my sake.

I used to have a friend of mine who was a bit more on the heavier side but she was gorgeous in my eyes. One day we had a discussion about her ex (he was harrasing her at the time), she was livid and started going off on how much of a POS he was and it got to a point where she mentioned he was small and how she had to fake moan for the whole 10 seconds he lasted (also another fear of mine but for the time being). I don't know if he actually was small or not and while she probably only said that because she was pissed, I feel like the combination of being small and her being bigger, just means that things would probably end up like that for me if I ever end up with a bigger woman, and I hate that because I'm more attracted to them.

I fear I'll never be enough for a bigger woman. While I'm not exclusively looking for bigger woman and likely wouldn't have the issue of thicker thighs/bigger ass with someone who's on the thinner/average side, I haven't had much luck with meeting those kind of women either. I'm just looking for some advice on how to overcome this fear of not being enough for a bigger woman...