Hello Reddit. Was looking for some advice on how to hopefully increase my partners desire. We have a good relationship overall and are caring and affectionate to each other. We have been together for 4 years and were having some bedroom issues last year and actually read Come as you Are by Emily Nagoski's together. She has responsive desire and we found that doing a full body massage will usually get her in the mood. However I want to find other ways to activate her responsive desire and sometimes have a massage just be a massage. Things like smacking her ass or fingering/oral are not things she responds positively too so I am looking for ideas on other ways to turn her on