I have been seeing this girl and and we tried sex both times and she insisted using condoms which I respected it. I am not used to condoms which I usually end outside or put the condom before I ejaculate and go little more and that has been totally fine with my experiences. I got hard with her BJ and whenever I put the condom and she gets on top or I get in , I lost the whole connection and lost my erection. She blamed herself and told me that I am not attracted to herself and I think It is because of me . I am not sure If its the performance anziety , the death grip or condom. I am not a porn freak guy but I have a history of it as the other men do. On the other hand I thought about why I only got hard with the BJ . I should be getting hard way before and no need to it . She is not completely my type , Im more into voluptuous women but I still find her attractive and enjoy being with her. This put me in a position that I am upset about myself and lost a bit of my confidence and self esteem. I wanted to get your opinions and experiences with this issue. Thank you for your time.