So I haven't had that many sexual relationships in life, and the few times I have had sex, nothing really escalated to a rough, kinky nature. The roughest I have had sex is when a woman I went on a date with scratched deep into my back as we had sex. Normally it was just plain old missionary. Do you guys usually get into the roughness right away? If not, how long does it usually take before you start to get "mean, aggressive and dominating?"

Also, is it normal to have the opposite of rough and mean sex? Like I have fantasies of an angel or a fairy coming to cheer me up by letting me suck on her breasts and giving her "love sex," cuddling after. If she gave me a blowjob, I'd say "don't deep throat unless you want to" or something like that. Or I'd be like a boy just in shock and awe at a beautiful goddess that acted like my "mommy" but was so sweet, and giggled if I played with her tits or ass, saying "Such a sweet boy you are." Is roleplay like that a thing? Or it's be the opposite, and I'm a brave knight who sees a spirit that is so scared until she sees how kind I am, then gets curious about my body and plays with my dick a little in a silly manner before sucking. How do you feel about these fantasies?