So I (45 F) have recently lost 70lbs (woohooo lol) and I have found myself being interested in getting myself some spicy lingerie! I showed hubby (48M) some of the things I was looking at just as a bit of a tease and he shocked me by saying he really isn't into lingerie and thinks its just a waste of money! I never thought about it before as for most of our 22 year marriage sex has been a rare event (both because I hated my body and because we were busy raising two sons, one with special needs and didn't have much time to ourselves). Now that my boys are basically grown we have more available fun time and I really want to do something to spice things up (like a lot lol...rediscovering my non-vanilla side).
So since he isn't into lingerie, what kinds of things should I try to get his motor running? He has basically just been wanting quickies and while that's fun once in a while I would love to get him in the mood for something longer lasting and hopefully a little more kinky (ie. rough, handcuffs, that sort of thing)! Also are there really men out there that don't think lingerie is hot?? I had my eye on some really saucy little numbers and was looking forward to showing off my new body!