So I (29M) and my fiancé(28F) have been together for almost 3 years engaged for a year. We are getting married soon and I definitely need some advice. My fiance has given me oral before, we have 69’d and ate each other well. I believe starting last year oral became less and less involved in our sexual activities. When we have conversations about how we’re feeling and what do we need for ourselves and from our partner, I’ll mention more oral sex(not only for me but for her as well). She has mentioned that she gets in her head about the first time she has given me oral and she assumed I didn’t like it when I gave her some constructive criticism about how I felt her teeth on my eggplant. I think it’s crazy she brings that up because that was 2 years ago and she has gotten better and I’ve told her I love it when she does it. When I try to go down on her, I foreplay or try to warm her up a little because she gets ticklish or frantic as I start to kiss her thighs and go down and then she says she’s not ready for that and I feel like crap because I just don’t know what’s keeping her from wanting it.

I understand now that oral may just not be her thing anymore, I’ll need to continue to ask and try to figure it out, but I just want to know if I should let it go and forget about oral sex in our relationship and soon to be marriage or really break the barrier ask her what’s going on(I’ve done this a couple of times to just know what’s in her head).

Also my fiance is beautiful and I will never force her to do anything she is uncomfortable doing or would I do something out of spite because of it. Just want to know how to approach the situation at hand before we spend hundreds on sex/marriage counseling.