I'm fairly new to things, but am really curious about exploring with someone else. I'm also very hesitant to start any form of birth control; a personal preference.

Foreign objects inside me, that change me, alter my hormonal function, need to be physically (and often somewhat painfully/uncomfortably) inserted and are rife with possible side effects ( additional predisposition to suicidal tendencies and major depression for relatives who did try birth control) make me pretty disinclined to get started with it.

Are condoms enough? Is a vasectomy a crazy, outlandish ask in a long-term relationship? Does the concept of 'safe sex' extend to avoiding pregnancies also, i.e. is it looked down upon to not want any form of contraception as the vagina-haver? And would certain sexual acts just be completely off the table if I went into a relationship not on birth control or any contraceptives?

And overall, does it intimate some kind of prudishness or traditionalism? Or an overt red flag? In general it's pretty superficial, but being a virgin late (21F) seems to already garner some strange reactions, so I'm wondering if I should brace myself for further cocked eyebrows and 'oh, so you're waiting until marriage?'s, tbh.

Edit: I don't want kids, and I'd never force someone to get a vasectomy for me. But I'd ask, and take no offence to someone asking if I'd consider the equivalent (which I would/have). :)