Coming soon - Get a detailed view of why an account is flagged as spam!
view details

This post has been de-listed

It is no longer included in search results and normal feeds (front page, hot posts, subreddit posts, etc). It remains visible only via the author's post history.

2
Need advices for relationship with less sex
Post Flair (click to view more posts with a particular flair)
Post Body

Apologies if my post is too long and/or confusing. English is not my first language.

Her (F 40) and myself (M 47) have been dating for almost 6 months. A bit of context. I've been in a long relationship and have kids. Separated 6 years ago, I've been seeing a couple of women with only 1 serious relationship that lasted 2years. She has been living the libertin lifestyle for over 10years using various website. She told me that she was seeing 1 different man every day during the pandemic for which I'm not judging her but it shocked all my friends when they heard this. She has never really been in a serious relationship and sex was her thing.

We met on facebook dating and immediately got along super well. We both come from the same place, have the same culture and references, humour etc. It was an instant hit between us. We decided to meet in person 1 week after we met online and during that week we spoke all the time. When we met the first time it was at a restaurant and we spoke the entire evening. We then stayed together every day since that meeting at the restaurant.

At first she was overly sexual. Not that I don't like that but it scared me a bit as when we spoke online it was always romantic and nice, but in person she wanted to have sex all the time. Waking me up at 4am and things like that. And little by little I started learning about her past life and started to wonder if she wasn't considering our "relationship" like her other interactions with men which were only driven by sex. But she told me she had feelings and I could see and feel it.

I'm writing a novel at the moment and explained to her that I need to be in my bubble when I write. I need to have uninterrupted sessions. One day she was working at my place, I told her I will be writing and needed a bit of space so that she doesn't feel like I was avoiding her. She had a couple of meetings so It was the perfect timing. But every time she would end a meeting she would run into my office and interrupt me. After being interrupted 3 times in a row I had to tell her that she was preventing me from writing. That I understood she wanted to see me but I also told her I needed to write and be in my bubble. She took it badly. And since that day our relationship drastically changed. Now we barely have sex, and whenever I ask her she's never in the mood or she doesn't feel well. I get that she felt that I was pushing her away and we had several conversation about this. But it didn't change. Sex is not like before since that day and I deeply miss it and regret that this happened.

I'm trying my best every day to show her my love and how much I want to be with her. But in the end it doesn't seem to be enough and we barely have any intimacy. I do not want to see other women as I love the one I am with and want to make love to her, not to some stranger. But I feel the frustration building up inside of me and it's killing me.

What can I do?..

Author
Account Strength
90%
Account Age
9 years
Verified Email
Yes
Verified Flair
No
Total Karma
1,170
Link Karma
139
Comment Karma
1,031
Profile updated: 1 week ago
Posts updated: 2 months ago

Subreddit

Post Details

We try to extract some basic information from the post title. This is not always successful or accurate, please use your best judgement and compare these values to the post title and body for confirmation.
Posted
1 year ago