Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here, I’m 22M, and I’ve been single for a while since my last relationship (3 years ago). The problem is that I’m really into bdsm (soft, hard or anyway very rough sex), and I cant really see my self in a relationship without it. I’m now talking with this girl that is really an angel, aesthetically my type, she deserves the best and it’s very beautiful, she kinda took my attention after a while (the last time was my ex at 19 yo), but she is really not into these type of stuffs and don’t really turn her on, although she is very open minded, for her it’s just a no.

I don’t want to be the superficial person who thinks just about sex and things about that, but for me in a serious relationship sex is a big thing and I can’t start one without having affinity about it. For example she obviously turn me on but when I think about doing just regular sex or that I can’t tell her some fantasies/kink I have, I get turned a bit off and my libido is not as high as other moments in the past. I don’t want to start a relationship and knowing then I would start getting bored after some years or maybe starting fantasize about other girls/ doing things I can’t do with the person I love. I’m really passionate in a relationship and I give 101% of my self. What would you suggest to do?