Hi recently I got home and my husband was masturbating. It’s not my favorite thing to stumble upon but I’m also not going to judge him for masturbating. I did ask what he was masturbating to him and he got very red in the face but admitted it was wife sharing / cuckolding porn. I’m slightly aware of the term but was quite surprised. Anyways, after discussion he says the idea of sharing me with others is hot to him and he does sometimes think about himself with others, sexually.

Background: we have what I think is a fairly normal married, mid 30s, post kids, sex life. Some times we have sex 2-3 a week sometimes we may go a week or two without, depending on how busy our schedules are. We have 2 kids, 7 and 8 and we both have demanding jobs so are busy. I’d say I’m mostly fulfilled sexually but yes things were more fun and had a different spark when we were younger, he says the same. Things are more vanilla these days but we both usually get off. Otherwise I’d say the relationship is very strong. We challenge each other but are also each others best friends. Sometimes communication we have to work at but I think we are pretty strong there

Back to the topic. As a pure fantasy, sure maybe it could be fun and I could get into it and maybe be ok with him as well. That said the logistics and risk just seem intolerable. Bringing extra people into the relationship seems very risky and a mess. Also, I’m fairly sex positive but we both have high profile careers and the idea of friends and family knowing isn’t something I can fathom, at the moment. Long story short, I told him it’s something that maybe if the situation was perfect, I’d be interested in, but logistically to find the time and place to make it works seems unlikely. I could tell he was disappointed but understanding.

I guess my question is am I being over logical here? Also, does anyone have tips to perhaps brings these fantasies to life via roleplay in the bedroom or does that just perpetuate the fantasy for him and me and make it worse.

Any advice is welcome, thanks!