Been with my(m37) wife(f35) for 15 years now. Within last couple months she has been dealing with some health issues. Nothing super life threatening but concerning enough to get treatment and all. Mostly high blood pressure and high heart rate when doing the smallest thing. I have high BP too. She is on a few different meds for this too.

Since this has been going on, sex has pretty much stopped, which it wasn't happening much to begin with before that. Which I get if she isn't feeling well, I'm not expecting her to want sex if she isn't feeling good.

I guess the issue is me having a high sex drive. I want it more often than not. Also, I have to initiate 99% of the time so I don't want to come off as being insensitive or anything by trying to initiate sex now. But also know it probably won't happen if I don't try. Sex isn't a big topic of discussion even when I try to talk about in depth.

Having to see her around the house half naked just makes it worse. Like, I want to see her that way but it just makes not having sex even harder. I constantly tell her how much I want her and compliment her. About the only thing we do is, she will watch me jerk off. Which I like sometimes but not all the time. Even asked if she would do it for me but she said no. Getting off by masturbation and by sex are completely different, for me anyways.

I'm rambling and I don't really know what I'm looking for on here. Maybe ways of coping til she feels like having sex. Maybe just talking about it on here. I don't really know. I know I just want to feel connected to my wife again.