I’ve (34f) been seeing this guy (35m) for a couple months and it’s gotten serious pretty fast. We have amazing mental and sexual chemistry. He’s pretty dominant in the bedroom and we naturally seem to gravitate towards d/s roles. He does things like hair pulling, pinning my hands behind my back/above head. Just overall takes control. I recently told him I’d be into being choked so he’s done that. He’s pretty gentle but rough where it matters.

We have talked about bondage/tying my hands. We would like to try some new things but I don’t know where to start? What are the risks of trying this stuff so soon in a relationship? If we get to it all in the beginning will be get bored of each other faster?

Also, he’s very gentle and caring outside of the bedroom and after sex. Lots of caring touch and chivalrous acts (holding doors and small gestures of kindness). But, if I’m being honest with myself sometimes I feel a little “used like an object” after a rough session. It’s weird because I absolutely love it, but it’s just a feeling that comes up occasionally. It usually passes quickly but I’ve never experienced anything like this before so I just want to make sure I’m processing things okay.