I used to have tons of mfm threesomes in my 20s after college, and it was amazing. I was still only bi-curious at this point and super DL, so the focus was always on pleasing the lady. But the swinger scene around here was also rampantly homophobic and I distinctly remember how broken-hearted I felt when I asked an openly bi couple I knew what it was like, and she detailed the tons of random hate messages they received on a popular swinger platform, all because her husband was openly bi on their profile. People blacklisted them and they longer went to house parties. They just did their own thing and carried on. They loved single guys and did a lot of threesomes and gangbangs for her. The husband was a very nice guy, not at all my type, but respectful nonetheless and allowed me a ton of freedom with his wife.

That was 13 years ago. To this day, I see echoes of that homophobia in that almost no guy is openly bi, and I find it super hard to believe that, tbh. But I have a new hot pansexual female play partner & I wanna share her with attractive guys. I don’t need to do anything, really. I get plenty of action with men on my own. Would it be more fun? Sure! But I would never do something that wasn’t discussed beforehand or without anyone’s consent. So are str8 guys still worried that a threesome with a bi guy is gonna turn them gay, or that they just are incapable of controlling themselves and are gonna suck your dick without warning? I’d like to hear from people what their reservations would be, if anything. Or maybe I’m reading too much into a purely circumstantial situation.

I’d rather be openly bi on the platforms we’re on, but I dunno…..if no one else is, then is that gonna hurt our chances as a couple or even with just finding guys we both feel are a good fit? So far, the ones we both really like are all str8 and this is what got me thinking about all this.