I'm a 33/F that for the life of me, cannot find the confidence I have desperately been looking for my entire life. I have always put way too much value in my looks (that seems to be what I always hyperfocus on, like "if I can just get this makeup look, or lose this amount of weight, everyone will like me)! It's shallow and juvenile, I know.

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As a kid, I always had friends but I was that super-tall, red curly haired girl that was easy to tease. It is why I still obsess over looks to this day. It sounds ridiculous. I know I'm not ugly, and I know there is SO much more to a person than looks. How on earth does one find confidence in themselves, as a whole?

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I am also on a journey of sobriety (that's another post for another community, I know), and I'm proud of my 11 months and how much I've grown, but I am still looking for my confidence (turns out, alcohol did not give it to me). Any suggestions or personal experiences that you have found to help? I want to believe in myself.