Back whenever I was 18 (5 years ago), I had a very high interest in so many different things, and would study them deeply. I knew a bunch of random facts, and had a very vast vocabulary. I was also, in my opinion, pretty funny and did really well in groups and conversation. I had a ton of hobbies and did multiple sports and felt great. I had a bunch of friends and did pretty decent in the women department.

I was in a very long term relationship and did not do very much. I just exited this relationship and took a deep look at myself and realized I had lost a lot of these traits. I'm not sure why or how but I'm pretty awkward, slow speaking, and just don't really feel like that fire that I used to have is there anymore. I feel, for lack of a better word, dumb now. My personality is quite dry in groups and I just sort of agree or build off of whatever everyone else says.

My question is, how do I gain that fire back? The only thing that stayed consistent is my emotional intelligence. Everything else has slowly dwindled over time.