(I originally posted this on r/relationships, but it was removed by the mods and they recommended I post it here. So here I am!)

As it says in the title, I am under a lot of stress.

What's causing this stress you might ask?

Well, I'm student director in our school play. The (adult) director is quite incompetent (for you Harry Potter fans, she's in my phone as Umbrage) and expects me to know everything about everything. I'm also on every crew, and even sing in a choir in one scene in the actual play.

However, I can not quit the play, as it is being put on in less than 2 weeks.

I also have a lot of stress from school. All of a sudden, the teachers have been loading us with homework. While I understand this is a normal part of school (and life in general, when it comes to learning how to deal with this kind of stuff) with play and other issues that have been causing me stress (which I will get into) this does not help matters at all.

Another factor is my grandmother. I love her a lot, but she has many health problems, and is actually on a transplant list. So I am constantly worrying about her (because my mother tells me a lot about her issues to keep me updated). My grandfather has also had a minor issue that has caused massive repercussions at the moment, due to the consequences.

One other issue that has been causing me stress is my parents' divorce. Just, the way people will perceive me and my family has been causing me a lot of anxiety (I live in an predominantly Christian area, many who don't agree with divorce except in cases of abuse and cheating. Which is what my dad did, he cheated. But random people who hear about the divorce through the grapevine might not hear that part).

These are the biggies. There are minor other things on a day to day basis that worry me, but these are the ones that worry me the most.

Now, MY main issue is how this has affected me. If I could just deal with it, we wouldn't have a problem.

But we do, because these have caused breakdowns. Like, full on mental breakdowns.

My biggest was at my brother's birthday celebration with my family. I just went to my room at one point, and cried and just say in a corner. I was trying to calm down, but I just couldn't. One of my friends (we'll call him H) kept texting with me and ended up helping me calm down.

But at one point, my cousins had come in, and saw me. They (of course) went and told my mom, who became pissed at me and proceeded to basically reprimand me for "scaring me cousins." No "what's going on," no "are you okay," nothing. Just "stop crying. You're scaring your cousins."

I've also come very close to having quite a few at school. So this is definitely effecting my everyday life.

And I don't know how to deal with it. I feel like I'm being treated my a 24 year old, not a 14 year old. By everyone (friends, family, other adults in my life). And that's another stress. I'm supposed to be an adult in every situation, even though I am only a child. One more source of stress.

I know this probably sounds like a very whiny teenager post, but to me this is a real problem. However, don't be afraid to tell me like it is.

TL;DR: Too much stress, having mental breakdowns, mother isn't helping, I'm at my wits end. Help?