Im 25 year old guy who has been using tinder and hinge on and off. I think I went to a total of 10 dates with different girls but none of them turned into anything meaningful.

Now Im 5’4 and I always have that in my bio and I know that this is a dealbreaker for some girls which is why I have that included in my bio. Usually I can at least entertain one of the girls I match with and turn that into a date, but the issue is… it doesn’t go further than that.

During the date I always make sure to be respectful and not do anything bad. I always go with the goal of having a great time for the two of us. I try to make jokes, smile, and look at her in the eyes. Most of the time, it has gone great at least for me but I guess not for them?

Im not sure why it always ends the same way. Its like there’s something missing that nobody’s willing to tell me. I’ve even asked if I actually look any different than my picture which I didn’t.

If someone swiped right on me is because they are at least physically attracted to me to some degree, right? So if I look the same, then could it be the way im coming off rather than my physical appearance?

After the first date I either get ghosted, friendzoned, or her interest is just not there anymore(texts me once a week). It has been like this for a long time now and I haven’t had a single success.

Today I just received a text from i girl I was talking to. She honestly was the most attractive girl Ive seen and I loved her personality and was looking forward to seeing her again. We had more in common than I initially thought except music. She seemed to be into music more than I expected but I didn’t think much of it.

This morning I was anxiously waiting to hear from her until I heard my phone iMessage notification. I knew it was her but I wasn’t ready to open it right away. I was afraid to get rejected again so I tried to mentally prepare myself for that. It took me some time to gather myself together and open up the text. And as soon as I unlocked the phone I read the first few lines and it broke me.

She texted me saying she didn’t see me as anything more than friends. I tried asking her why to which she responded that Im “sweet and cute” but our passions are a bit different. While I understand it I have already heard this many different times before which stings really, really bad.

I didn’t do anything all day after that. I honestly didn’t feel hungry and motivated. Im not sure if its gonna be the same way tomorrow. I just feel sad and unmotivated.

I still got the dating apps. I open them occasionally but the thought of going on a date now scares me. Im becoming afraid of dating…