36M here, and I've never been on a date. I've asked out maybe 6 women over the years (I have severe confidence and appearance issues so it takes me a while to get the courageto even ask) and only once did any of them say yes. It is almost always "you are too good of a friend," which is absolutely a fair thing to say when there is no interest.

I've always had self-confidence issues, and even after losing nearly 100 lbs a few years ago, down to 215, I still struggle with image issues. Being an overweight "nerd," im sure has always reduced my chances for dating.

My hobbies are not very popular among women, especially my age, so it's hard to find someone who has any shared interests. I've tried online dating with zero success, as every match I've had has ghosted me after a few messages. I've only ever been complimented on my appearance by men or relatives, so I've come to the conclusion that there is something about me that is unattractive.

Regarding the one who said yes, she immediately canceled the date we had planned and confessed to me that she was not ready to date, which was frustrating and confusing as to why she said yes in the first place.

I'm looking for any advice on what to do, as at this point, I'm ready to give up ever trying again.

Edit: I appreciate all of the advice. I don't think my lack of female interest specifically has anything to do with my appearance rather its something else entirely. I've of course seen men dating women that by normal standards have no right to be together, yet they are. I'm convinced I give off a "creep" aura or something else that I can't seem to fix.