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At 20 I’ve never had an actual relationship with anyone it’s always been one sided. I feel dejected and ugly when I hear people talk about how many times they’ve been asked out compared to my 0. My friends all have partners consistently I’ve always been the single guy. I’m not looking for anything more than a partner to just live life with. Even when I make my romantic intentions or interests clear it’s pushed to the side and I’m just the reliable friend. What can I do? I understand I’m not the most attractive person but I always try to do right by people and treat others the way I’d want to be treated but it feels like it’s never reciprocated.
what can I do?
1) Learn how to dance
2) Get a proactive non Warhammer/anime/train/WW2 hobby. Even if it's literally just decorating aquariums or Geocaching.
3) Go through style blogs and stop dressing like a normal person. Normal hasn't worked for you.
4) Don't listen to the "you have time" people. They're going to consider you not having past relationships a "red flag" or "icky" once you're 3-4 years older. If it works for them, good. But ignore the stereotypical tendency for reddit to decry the existence of patterns.
5) If you can afford it, take vocal coaching classes. Most people including a lot of really influential ones slur and mumble. Train that out of yourself. Online resources on this are pretty extensive too
6) Don't be too kind to the point you seem like a pushover. Learn how to banter and tease.
7) Listen to a broader range of music.
8) Learn how to fight.
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