Myself (39m) and my partner (34f wife) are both searching for a woman around our age to be a mutual best friend and lover. We want someone open to slowly intertwining in each other's lives to ultimately form a non-hierarchical triad that is preferably closed or has a very tiny constellation.

📌 Important basics to know up front:

• child free - prefer the same. we won't be having our own (vasectomy! ✂️)
• not neuro spicy in the least - sure, we each think differently, but we don't need a label for it.
• no chronic illness
• no mental health issues or trauma
• no history of any abuse/hard drugs/addictions and no signs of starting any time soon.
• we don't smoke Cigarettes and think they are gross 🚫
• 420 friendly - I don't smoke, she vapes outdoors occasionally.
• occasional social drinkers, but all things in moderation.
• no interest in conspiracy theories without hard evidence or real science behind them.
• we both are left leaning but hate all political extremes (especially MAGA).
• not religious. We will each respect your views so long as they are not weaponized against others.
• Secure ✅- job, car, housed, no debt, etc.

🚩If any of the above is a red flag, run now while you can!

✅ If the above resonates with you - keep reading!

About this existing Dyad:

Currently living in the Las Vegas Area, but the whole blackjack and hookers thing is not for us.
Our favorite activities are hiking, stargazing, people watching, conventions, pop up events, and occasional city entertainment when friends are in town. We tend to be homebodies otherwise. We are hoping that you will inspire us to try new things and travel one day as well, or perhaps we'll upsize and move in together.

We are both creatives who love game development. I do the tech, she's the artist.
Both of us are typical nerds as well, enjoying anime, videogames, Disney, and the likes.
we are always seeking inspiration and love combining skills to make stuff. If you like learning and collecting new skills, we've got a lifetime supply of skills to share with you!

My partner and I are both demi. For clarity, our definition of Demi is that we both fall in love with the on-going closeness and intimacy of friendships.
Emotional intimacy is extremely important to both of us. We find good communication to be sexy as hell even.
In the long term, feeling desired is better than any orgasm. (so why not both?)👈
The honeymoon phase never ends if the foundations are solid😉.
We have no interest in one-night stands, swinging, casual sex, etc. or anything primarily driven from sex first mindset.

A few more key words to describe us: honest, silly, very affectionate, a bit clingy, mindful, supportive, hardworking, sane, outgoing introverts, sex positive, poly, a little kinky perhaps, and lots more I can't fit in here.
Reach out and find out!

To be clear -> this is not a unicorn fantasy.
This is something each of us wanted since the day we first met.
We define Triad as in: AB BC AC ABC
That is multiple romantic dyad relationships and their overlapping triad. 1:1 relationship is part of the equation.
We want a life partner, not a sex partner (crazy fun sex comes later, it's not the main objective).
It's ok if our individual relationships evolve at different speeds or even lose some romantic traction between any side of the triad. We're not a packaged deal, we just chose to start here (Shoot for the moon and hope to get into space at least).
Friendships are also important, and we can regroup and figure out a new setup that we can all be happy with. Communication is key. Good things take time and effort. We each embrace all of the good times and hardships that come with this setup wholeheartedly because the rewards are worth it.

👉If this post resonates with you, reach out in chat and tell me a little bit about yourself👋.
I'll introduce you to my partner and we can swap pics after we move past first impressions.