I was in NYC last week for a week for work. I went to this cozy coffeeshop on a cold Sunday to relax a little bit and work on my computer. As I got my espresso, I scanned the room. I saw a blond 8/10 chilling on a big couch. I got my espresso and just sat next to her and started doing some work and listening to music.

As I was doing some work, I wasn't really paying attention to her and wasn't really expecting anything. She got up a couple times to use the restroom and I had to get up, because the space was tight. After like half an hour, she asked me "Is it always busy here?" and I told her I wasn't sure and I'm from out of town. That led to a whole conversation about where we are from, what we are doing in NYC. She said she's originally from Ukraine and I expressed my support and sympathies with the whole war situation. We both realized that we are super into punk music and started looking up interesting shows to go to that week. We followed each other on IG. I left the coffeeshop as soon as we exchanged contact info. No escalation

A couple days later, we exchanged a couple DMs and I had a low-key situational escalation. It was so cold and I was like, "They say human body heat exchange is the best mechanism to survive this cold 😏" and she responded by laughing and we continued the conversation about sick shows around town.

Hangout Session 1: No escalation

Next day, I was having some Sushi in her area and I invited her for drinks and maybe checkout this underground show at a nearby venue. We were late to the show, but we bar hopped and got pretty drunk. We were mostly telling our life stories and talking about randomness and the absurdity of life. No escalation or anything sexual happened here. We just parted ways around midnight and went back to our rooms.

Hangout Session 2: Escalation

I was grabbing some food and was planning on checking out this punk show at a venue near my apartment. I sent her the event and she was immediately interested and showed up to the venue. We had amazing drinks and listened to amazing live music. I was just having a really good time and was dancing, etc. As the live show was peaking and the guitarist was going crazy and a huge mosh pit was going on, I just said "1,2,3 FUCK IT" and turned around, slowly walked towards her, and just started making out with her. Things got pretty hot and we were very touchy, hand holding and making out a lot. When the show ended, I suggested we go back to my place to relax and listen to music, but she was hesitant, saying it's a week day and we are both too drunk and it's not responsible, but she continued making out with me lol. I did agree that we were pretty drunk. Again, I had zero expectations, and I didn't want to insist, so I said goodbye and left.

Lessons

• In retrospect, I should have started the escalation during date 1. The conversation was just too emotional and logical. We were very close, our legs were touching and everything, but I just didn't make a move.
• On the second date, I should have asked her to accompany her to the subway station instead of just hopping on a Lyft and getting out of the venue, because she was drunk, and it was just a nice gesture. I guess I was trying to be cool and non-needy
• I love these random little encounters that evolve into something beautiful. I will start going to coffeeshops to read and do work more. This was one of those positive experiences that makes me want to move to NYC. Back where I'm from (South FL) these encounters rarely happen.

TLDR: Met a girl at a coffeeshop in NYC, got her IG, sent her a couple of funny escalatory comments, and hung out with her a couple times and made out like crazy at a punk show.