A lot of guys get stuck in a bizarre 18th century mentality with their approach to sex and women whom they have feelings for.

They believe that they are somehow being respectful or are demonstrating to her that they are relationship material by not pursuing sex or being sexual.

In fact, this is approach is actually harming their chances to establish deeper level emotions and bond with her. Casual Sex isn’t just reserved for one night stands, the club/party women, or the non-relationship types you encounter.

That woman you built up on a pedestal in your mind—the one who is ‘different’ than the others—wants to fuck. Stop being a Boy Scout about things.

Keep in mind:

Women crave sex just as much as men. Their emotional trigger points are different, but don’t make the mistake of thinking that you are saving her from herself by not pursuing sex. Seduction is proper engagement of emotions. It isn’t a magic spell or manipulation that’s beyond her control. The woman is fully capable of making her own decisions about having sex. Do not feel shame for seeking out sex with someone just because you have feelings. Sex is a central component of love and romance. Sex is mistakenly overlooked as a factor that plays into a woman’s feelings. It isn’t just about what you say to her and how you look. The ability to effectively pleasure, and go beyond her experiences with other men is a critical factor is developing deeper feelings. Eye contact during sex is a key opportunity to develop an emotional bond. If you have feelings for someone, you should not only view sex as something you enjoy, but a means to win the other person over and bond.

You designate yourself as a platonic friend when you intentionally avoid sex. Relationships are simply friendship with added element of sex and sexual attraction. If you take the sexual component out, you are just a pleasant friend. A woman wants to see if she is sexually compatible with a man before perusing a relationship. Waiting until the relationship phase for a woman is risky; sex is just as important to her as it is to you. If she’s into someone, but the sex isn’t satisfactory, her attraction and feelings won’t be as deep. You have to establish yourself in the frame of a potential romantic/sexual partner as early as possible. Avoidance of sexual desire will make you appear unnatural, and frame you as a friend, rather than someone she actually wants to sleep with.

TLDR: You are not preserving a woman’s honor by ‘taking things slowly’ or delaying sex. You’re only hurting your chances for developing something long term.

Full article on topic: https://modating.substack.com/p/reddit-files-stop-a-white-knight