It’s been a crazy year ranging from first ONS success, OLD booty calls, bar pickups, girlfriends, sex friends, heartbreak and breaking hearts, huge rejections, burnout, and taking breaks. Some reflections through all this going into the fall:

-Be more selective, go for hotter but also make her qualify herself and be ready to drop a set if she don’t have a good personality. The hot ones need validation the most and so love being hit on. Most guys are too intimidated and they go after mids who then have an elevated view of themselves and consequently harder than hotter chicks to land! Don’t put them on a pedestal like other guys by realizing that good looks don’t make a person. Her farts stink like yours. Your approach should be to knock her off her pedestal a little bit while finding out does she qualifies in the personality dept. and meet your other criteria to be worthy of your time. Once you are in the relationship, some chicks are too masculine and view you as a project to mold to their liking which gets smothering and annoying or there is too much shit testing in general to where she is constantly challenging you so just gets annoying. Drop those ones. Sometimes I would lower my standards to get laid or have a gf, but I just paid for it in drama later.

-You attract what you are. Down, unsure, depressed? That’s what you attract. Are you sexy, confident, upbeat, stylish? Then you get that in a girl. Also seems there is some kind of trauma bond with every girl I get with. She is going through something similar to what I went through and that helps us relate to eachother. Have the motto that your mission is brighten other people’s days. Get your frequency up, and you’ll get better results.

-Pay attention to red flags. Chicks with 4 kids and 3 baby daddies prolly a red flag, and she ain’t worth pursuing. Don’t be trying to save some girl down on her luck or pursuing chicks that are running through a bunch of dudes. Avoid alcoholics (or becoming one). Again, save yourself drama down the road.

-Health! Get tested for STDs more regularly, especially if you rawdoggin lol. Know your testosterone levels too and treat accordingly. Get plenty of sleep. Work out everyday. Even if all you do is 50 push-ups on a day you drinking 83 beers, do it. Keep your shit toned and tanned.

-Is impossible to avoid attachment. Sometimes they will like you more, and visa versa. Manage by showing that you like her slightly less than she likes you to keep her interest. Be truly unattached to outcome. Even so, some level of heartache is part of the game.

-Pickup, dating, and girlfriends are expensive Af! Be targeted with how you spend your time. Rather than always going to bars and blowing cash on drinks, do more day game cofeee ice cream instadates to the pull. Don’t let pickup put you in the hole financially cuz it is addicting. Make sure you are putting as much energy into continually improving your financial position and generally focused on pursuing your life goals.

-Continual learning and resilience. Even after a streak of success, all of a sudden a huge rejection smacks you upside the head that makes you question your game. Happened to me on a date last night! Look for lessons learned from each rejection and remember you are good enough when you are bringing the heat! Chicks be buggin so don’t take it personally. Keep reading and studying too.

-Retention. Cultivating FWB / rotation girls allows you to reduce dependence on cold approach and simply let it ride. Ability to do this depends on how good you are at sex with this particular girl to keep attraction for you high. She is gettin it thrown at her all day, so you need to get your hormones and performance on point to be a good lover to make her want to go future rounds with you. And then you have to not get needy/fall in love with this girl to keep her while maintaining the relationship in off times through good, timely text game. Even if you want a gf and to fall in love, the way you keep her is by not being needy or appearing weak, and continually seducing her.

-Take breaks. Don’t need to go out every weekends. Girls are like waves in the ocean. They keep coming. Give yourself some time for you. Make yourself a steak and watch a movie. Celebrate time with yourself rather than think of it as this lonely time. Use as a time to level up some knowledge or skill. The drama catches up with you. If you are managing multiple girls, you’ll get caught up in love triangles and accusations of cheating. It’s ok to feel burnt out and to take a couple weeks to step away and let things reset.