I married my college sweetheart. We dated for a few years then got married and started a family. Everything about our relationship is damn near perfect. We’re best friends, openly communicate about nearly everything, are great parents, and honestly an argument never lasts longer than a few minutes. The only thing that’s been our constant hang up, has been sex. All things sex. Frequency, exploration, kink, and views are on completely different spectrums. She recently came out to me as asexual, sex repulsed. And honestly, great for her. I’m proud of her for coming out and saying that. Things make a lot of sense now. But due to her own personal morals and ethics, she doesn’t want to even approach the subject of alternative solutions. It’s rough. I myself have a sex drive. I find sex fun and full of enjoyment. I want to try new things, explore kinks, and have fun doing it. Mutual engagement and excitement is big for me. I want, urge for that connection.
There’s gotta be someone else out there who’s in a similar situation. Maybe your husband just doesn’t have the same drive you do, doesn’t pleasure you in the way you need or is just meh about sex. You love him dearly and have built a life in which you would never want to leave.
Comments like, “I know one day you’ll cheat, and I’ll always forgive you..” I just don’t know what to do with. Has your partner said something similar?
I’m really just venting. Anyone else wanna vent with me?
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