tldr: sub masochist looking for experienced an Dom for eventual LTR (you're better off reading this whole post)

I'm looking for a Dom (Daddy doms are cool) age 33-46. I am 31, nonbinary, in Seattle. Pronouns: they/she/he (in order of preference)

About Me: I'm black, cute as fuck, and have a dry sense of humor, a bunch of tattoos and bob-length locs. I got a mastectomy years ago. My style is a mix of alt, urban & girly or masc depending on the day, lots of black bright colored accents. I read, write, powerlift, hike and am learning photography. I'm a nerd and love all music, especially metal, edm, hiphop. SFW pics later if you want!

For the last 5 years, I've been working on myself, learning who I am and loving what I find. I'm now settled into my healing journey (it's as lifelong thing) and I’m ready to start my search for my Dom a relationship.

I'm a submissive & masochist. These are key parts of my identity, relationship goals and pleasure politic. I want a kink-led relationship with power exchange, partnership and mutual support & care. I have only ever been with women. I want to form a connection with a man who's just as eager to help me explore my sexuality as I am to explore it. I have a lot of new firsts to navigate with the right person and to do that I need to be in a monogamous/ish, caring, mature LTR with power exchange at the center (and a heavy dose of kinky, perverted sex). I'm not looking for a FWB, casual, etc.

The endgame for me is TPE with the right person, maybe that's you? That's all I'll say about that so early in this process, but know that TPE's the dream.

When at my most comfortable & natural, I come off as younger than I am. I've explored CGL, and find some of "being middle" appealing, but honestly, it's not roleplay...it's just who I am. I am basically always "in middlespace," except for the times when life demands I not be. I spent my 20s climbing the corporate ladder; I'm successful/in charge in the traditional career sense. I can take care of myself and expect that you can too.

What I look for in a Dom: - Experienced! (I'm far from new to kink, but I'm rusty.) - Direct communication - I need it. Not only is it so fucking hot, it makes life so much easier for me. I'm autistic and my mind is always going off in some direction or another, so keeping things to the point helps tremendously. - Well-groomed, strongly prefer clean shaven - Queer/queer-informed - Capable of introspection & vulnerability - Confident & secure - Funny - Appreciates creativity - Doing the work, you know it's a daily practice - being a good person for yourself and others - and you've committed to being that person one day at a time. - Sturdy. I am pretty strong, but I’m not very big (5'3, 150 pounds) so I often forget my own strength...I'd hate to break you. Ideally, you're strong enough to throw me around. - Passionate about something, be it your career, your art, your family, Seattle Kraken 🤞🏾, etc.

I'm looking for someone who helps me live as my true self and for whom I can provide the same help. I know why I’m young at heart (as I sometimes describe it) and into what I'm into. I have no desire to change any of it. To the contrary, I want to lean in! I just want to BE ME, in full; enjoy every part of me and share myself with a partner who appreciates it.

What I bring to the Table I am smart, funny, loyal, driven, caring, silly and in awe of the world. I want to try to make the world a better place and I believe the way to do that is by touching one heart at a time. If I commit to you, I will burn the world down for you or paint it technicolor - whatever you prefer. I wanna be your biggest cheerleader and want you to be mine.

I'm a romantic who chooses to see the glass half full, but I am not naive, stupid or desperate. I will not react well to feeling pressured. If we haven't been able to be vulnerable with each other and build mutual trust I will not want to get physical. When it comes to the physical - I want to try a lot, but I'm skittish around men and will be wary if I feel like I'm giving more than I'm getting. I'd rather be alone than settle for less.