Married over 14 years w two kids. I’d like to find someone in a similar situation who can relate. It started about 12 years ago when the power dynamic in the bedroom became one sided. Eventually I had to basically beg for any physical intimacy which led to deep resentment and retaliation to find a FWB. While I’ve had some emotional affairs with women who knew my situation I never really went too far. I tried my best to work on the marriage at home and talk to my wife, but she is adamant that nothing is wrong and that this is just how marriage is supposed to be. We are not exactly a sexless couple but 2x per month feels like we are lacking in that department. It’s not just the sex though. It’s the little touches, the intimacy, telling me she loves me, giving me a kiss, telling me I look good, telling me she wants me, etc. She gives none of that and it’s been that way for almost the entire marriage now. I sometimes wonder if she likes me at all. One time I straight up asked her if she’s gay which she denied but I feel like the jury’s still out.
It’s not like I’m some scumbag husband. I have a great job, make money, do chores, I’m a good dad. I have friends, hobbies, I work out. I take two showers a day!
My wife and I are really good friends in so many ways but it feels like a roommate situation a lot of the time. She reluctantly has sex with me, but not without rolling her eyes first. It hurts. I feel alone a lot. I hesitate to even write this all out because it looks like I’m a whiny little shit, but I’ve keep this inside for almost 15 years.
Life is so short and I really feel like I’m missing an elevated intimate connection that is part of the human experience.
I’m not looking to rock the boat at home. I am looking for a woman who can relate to this story and can keep things discreet for now and be willing to start as friends.
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