I (F26) have been living in San Diego for three years now. Yes I am from California, but not originally from San Diego. I know I'll get a lot of hate for that lol...

Anyways, ever since I moved here I'm having a really difficult time making new friends. I'm really friendly, and every job I work with, all my coworkers love me. They talk how much they love me and love working with specifically me, and that they feel comfortable with me. However, I never get invited to hang out outside of work. I try to make plans with people but they always end up falling through. Even when I quit a job, I feel like people are genuinely sad I'm leaving the job and I always hope they will continue to reach out and try to hang out outside of being colleagues, but sadly it hasn't really happened yet.

I want to meet people organically, I'm not a shy person at all. I used to go to Rich's or other clubs and bars every day of the week alone. I've met cool people that night but then radio silence after. I have a lot of fun with people and I know I'm not crazy- people do like me and enjoy my presence, but never enough to develop a genuine friendship and that's all I'm craving for as an adult. I have no family out here at all, so I'd really like to make some friends to ground me at least a little.

Back where I'm from I feel I didn't have this many issues making friends. Is it me? Am I too much of an outsider and most SD people already have enough friends? I genuinely am upset that I can't figure out what's wrong. Is anyone else experiencing this? Any tips?