I've used reddit before and I took a break to focus on more important things. I always find myself back here because of who I am. I'm a sadist. I like what I like and it encompasses how I date. I can't even find a woman attractive if I know she's vanilla and we aren't compatible. She could be the sexiest woman ever but if the bond isn't there then it means nothing. I ultimately want romance, a long term relationship but just like ALOT of people reading this, you're kinky like me and want someone who GETS YOU.

If you have kinks, especially rough sex kinks you've met someone who was an awesome person! You got along with them in most aspects EXCEPT sexually. Some women meet the best guys but they are afraid to abuse or hit them. Guys like me meet the most nicest loyal women but have to suppress my actual rough desires. Nothing better than having that bond with the person you care about.

When I say rough I don't mean a spanking. I mean hard face slapping, choking, punching(SAFE body and face) pulling hair, dragging her, spitting in her face, HARSH verbal degradation and even mental.
24/7 possessive controlling dynamics. You can have alll of those things in a committed, healthy consensual relationship...hell even a marriage. I think that's ultimately what a LOT of us want. A bond between 2 kinky perverted ppl is strong as hell.

I know im not alone, or am the only one who thinks this