I am autistic. My ability to read social situations is highly limited. My default name on Discord includes "(pls. see bio)." Said Discord profile reads as follows:

Due to neurological disorders, I have difficulty communicating with others. I am ill-equipped to deal with conflict. Please be understanding, and I will do my best to understand you in turn.

Earlier, I was in a pick-up game of Marvel Multiverse. For days, everything seemed to be going well enough. I created a full character sheet, with a fully written backstory and such.

The last thing I was discussing was Powerful Hex. I was asking if I could take it as a power at a later rank. I pointed out that it was one of the strongest and most flexible powers in the game, because it could bypass prerequisites and immediately access other very strong abilities, up to and including time travel and multiversal travel.

Suddenly, the GM mentioned that I should not have been talking about this in public, because they had asked me twice to discuss it privately instead. I expressed confusion, because from my perspective, at no point in the conversation did they actually ask me to discuss it in private. Then they appear to have booted me from the server and blocked all contact, both in Discord and in Reddit.

I do not understand how I am supposed to learn from these situations when I am cut off from any ability to review the finer details of what happened. And, to be clear, this is absolutely not the first time that this has happened.

This ties back to the last two bullet points here.

What am I to do, as an autistic person? "Just try to get better social skills" and "just try to avoid conflict" are very "draw the rest of the owl"-type suggestions.