Hello, I don’t really make a ton of Reddit posts so forgive me. I am in dire need of some advice. I (20m) have been living with my roommate (23f) since I turned 18. When we first moved in together I was coming from foster care so I never really had good experiences living with others. Regardless, I kept our apartment clean all year, and always did her dishes if I would do mine. Even if she wouldn’t touch my dishes. I would bring in her packages, clean the kitchen even tho she primarily uses it for cooking (as I work more hours than her and am rarely home) etc… i would always try to be a good roommate without any of the same returned kindness. I always tried to give her the Benefit of the doubt in the situation because she works and has a mental illness like me, but lately she has been getting more hostile. I had a really bad mental health streak and didn’t do the dishes for a month, which of course she noticed because I wasn’t doing HER dishes anymore. Eventually, she ended up doing the dishes but I got an extremely long passive aggressive text over it. I tried to brush it off but it struck me wrong because all year I had been being nice and doing all of this extra stuff because I knew she was going thru it years yet she is incredibly inconvenienced by doing my dishes once. Anyways, I digress. Not that it matters but my roommate is obese, she has a binging disorder so she is constantly making food (leaving mass amounts of it out overnight) and such. We both have our own cabinets for food, a shared cabinet, and a side storage. Lately my roommate has been taking up ALL of our cabinet space. The shared cabinet has been stuffed to the brim with her food all year, leaving no room for anything of mine. For the longest time majority of our fridge/ freezer was hers too but she’s slowly been getting less stuff in a passive aggressive way because I started getting more frozen foods. As I have no where else to put anything. When we first moved in I didn’t know how to set boundaries and we never really talked about them. But now it’s getting really hard for me to talk to her about it without feeling like I am inadvertently making a comment about her weight, which I am not trying to do. I have a really hard time confronting her because I also haven’t had the nicest of foster roommates and would get harassed or bullied if I tried to build boundaries. How do I approach my roommate without coming off as an asshole? Any advice would help thank you.