I guess I need help I’m a male 66 wife is 70. We have been married for 10 years. We have never had sex or made love. Totally my fault. I’ve turned her down several times over the years. Basically I’m scared to show emotion Unless it’s to cry. I don’t know how to be romantic to initiate intimacy. This the second marriage for both of us. Her first husband’s emotionally abused her. My first wife and drifted apart probably because of my lack of romance and intimacy.

I talked to my wife recently and apologized for me being the way I am. Basically what she wants from me is kissing hugging and handholding.

Is that romantic?

PS my father was ex Navy and I was not allowed to cry or show emotion. My mom on the other hand encouraged me to cry and be emotional.

I’m kind of confused on how to be romantic and show intimacy How to turn on my wife. Maybe we are to old for than anymore.