Looking for “real person” experience on how dangerous RA is for mother and child.

My wife has had RA since her early 20s and has run the gamut of RA drugs. She is convinced that getting pregnant (now at 30) that it would destroy her body. She’s even more scared about the RA drugs impacting the development of a child, resulting in birth defects, even if she goes off them for pregnancy.

I know RA can go into remission during pregnancy but what was your experience? Did you go into remission? Did it flare up worse after? Did your child have any developmental challenges?

Just gathering experiences. Obviously we will talk to her doctor for medical advice in her specific case.